Many men who were sexually victimised as children find themselves faced with a difficult challenge as an adult. The skills they used as a child tend to be counter productive in later life. The long term, damaging effects of silence became more painful than the risks of speaking out, transforming and healing.
- Depression and Anxiety
- Self Blame and Shame
- Tendency to be Over Controlling or Too Submissive
- Inability to Trust
- Flashbacks and Invasive Thoughts
- Difficulty Forming and Maintaining Healthy Relationships with Oneself and Others
- Anger and Rage
- Dissociative Identity Disorder
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Self-Destructive Behaviour
- Sleep Disorders
- Confusion around Sexual Identity
- Stress Related Illness
- Sense of loss, helplessness, isolation and alienation
- Dissatisfaction with Life
- Never Feeling Good Enough or Worthy
- Problems Defining Healthy Sexuality
- Guilt and Self Blame
- Suicidal Thoughts or Attempts
- Distorted View of Healthy Masculinity
The prevalence of childhood sexual abuse is now becoming more recognised and more men are coming forward to disclose their own experiences. The resources to help them, either with the disclosure process or the healing that follows, are few and far between.
Whilst the publicity around the high profile cases does shed more light onto this most heinous of crimes, the reality is, that most abuse is familial, unreported and therefore unrecorded. Change MUST come. There is no shame or blame on the head of the victim, despite what their preconceived or conditioned thoughts, may be.